Rigid Character Structure

We are all mixtures of all of the structures.  But sometimes some of the structures are more powerful than others.  This is a description of the pure rigid structure, but a pure rigid structure is very unusual, also there are different substructures to it.  If this is your dominant structure, then you may recognise some of the characteristics, but probably not all, as they will be mixed with other character structures.

How the Rigid Structure is Formed

This structure is formed at an age when the child is between 3 to 6 years old.  It is usually formed when there is a rejection from the opposite sex parent.  A fear of having ones heart broken arises.

The defence mechanism separates freedom and surrender to love and puts them in two mutually exclusive categories.  Within the body there is a separation at the level of the waist between the upper and lower parts of the body.  Also a separation between love  and sex.  

A type of determination sets in, where the person does not want to get their heart broken and with it a defence structure is erected.

What Dynamics Can Occur in the Rigid Structure

The rigid  will often be competitive.  They will tend to automatically compare themselves with others.  They also tend to have a type of pride and stubbornness.   They will not show what they feel.

They will often like things to be ordered and may be pedantic.  In relationships they will tend to separate love and sex.  It will be easier for them to feel sexually attracted to people they are not emotionally very close with.  And they may develop problems when it comes to having sexual relationships to those they love.  They will be afraid of surrendering to love and have a difficulty opening their heart.

How to Work to Overcome its Challenges

The work will be on surrendering to love, and opening ones heart.

Physically one would work on grounding, opening the heart region and allowing the two body parts (hips and chest) to connect and have energy flowing between them freely.

Emotionally one can work on unifying the two extreme poles of  “Freedom” and “Surrender to Love”.   This too is done in therapy.  One of the ways to work on it alone is through affirmations.

Affirmations for the Rigid Structure:

I am loved just the way I am.

I surrender to love.

I am free and loving.

How to Use the Affirmations:

Say one of the affirmations and note how it feels in your body.  Most likely you will feel a contraction of a sort, indicating that this is not true.  The idea is to work with the affirmations until you feel that you have aligned yourself internally with them.  You will know that this has happened when say the affirmation and you feel a positive, open, expansive feeling in your body.

You can work the affirmations in a gradual manner.  If you feel that you are not loved the way you are, you can start asking yourself:  “What might it feel like if I were loved totally just the way I am?”.  Then you focus on that feeling, expand it, get used to it, and practice it.

Soon there will be links to audio recordings with guided meditations focused on bringing the two poles  “Freedom” and “Surrender to Love” closer together.  They generate a binural beat of a Theta frequency in the mind, so that it will become easier to absorb the message.

The package that is designed to assist the rigid structure is called “Surrender to Love”.

 

The Other Character Structures: